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ADVICE FOR CARERS

Providing support for family members or friends who have cancer can be difficult. Carers have to cope with their own feelings as well as giving support to others. Carers may also find that the illness changes the way a person behaves for example a previously even-tempered person may become irritable, a normally cheerful person is likely to have periods of sadness and crying. These reactions are to be expected but they can be worrying and taxing for carers. It is important for carers to look after themselves and have some breaks from caring.


Psychological and Social Impact

Psychological impact

Looking after someone with cancer is stressful and it can arouse strong emotions including resentment, fear, depression, anger, frustration, loneliness and guilt. It is important to acknowledge these feelings and to accept that there is nothing shameful about them. Then it's important to deal with them, because if you don't you will be unable to care effectively and may become ill yourself.

Some carers may experience feelings of hopelessness or powerlessness. A carer may spend time trying to prepare appetising meals and then the ill person feels too sick to eat them or is sick after eating the meal. The provision of food is a fundamental act of caring and eating is essential to life, so 'rejection' of a meal is worrying, disappointing and frustrating for a carer.

Social impact

Being a carer can be an isolating experience, so it's important to make sure you keep up your own social contacts and have some time to unwind and have a break from caring. Some carers find they have to give up work in order to look after a relative or friend with cancer. Others combine working with caring.

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How Best to Help

Communication

A key way in which carers can help people with cancer is the way they talk with them and listen to them.

Looking after yourself

As a carer you can also help by looking after yourself, for example giving yourself little treats to help you keep going, having a long soak in the bath after a difficult day, ensuring you have some time to yourself, meeting friends in the evening – just having a bit of a break every now and then.

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Complementary and Alternative Therapies

Complementary therapies

These are used together with conventional medicine for example using aromatherapy to help lessen a patient's discomfort after surgery, acupuncture to help with pain.

Alternative medicine

Alternative medicine is used in place of conventional medicine for example using a special diet to treat cancer instead of having surgery, radiotherapy, or chemotherapy that has been recommended by a conventional doctor.

Choosing alternative therapies may have profound implications and any decision to opt for these therapies instead of conventional medicine must be done on an informed basis with medical advisers and consider all the facts available.

Complementary and alternative medicine

The distinction between alternative and complementary medicine is not always clear-cut and may depend on the context. Many people now use the term complementary and alternative medicine (CAM) as a way of including both approaches. Defining CAM is not straightforward. The general explanation is that they are a group of therapies, practices and approaches to health care which aren't part of conventional medicine. The list of what is considered to be CAM changes as therapies proved to be safe and effective become adopted into conventional health care.

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